Good day people. How are you doing?
I believe a lot of the marital challenges many couples
face are results of a lack of understanding of the purpose of marriage. I've
also come across a lot of people who think they're having marital challenges
because they married the wrong person or because they didn't perform one
ceremony or the other.
I'll like to state that I haven't come across any
scripture that tells us how exactly marriage ceremonies should be conducted to
assure of God's consent. I believe the laws of the land in which you get
married should determine the legality of the marriage. I don't believe Abraham
and Sarah had "white" wedding yet God defended their marriage
covenant TWICE against powerful third parties.
I don't have anything against church weddings; if you
choose to go that route, please make sure you tidy up the legal aspect.
Thus, I believe any marriage conducted legally is
approved by God and God will defend that marriage covenant.
There remains the question of parental consent. How
important is parental consent in a marriage? In my opinion, the couple should
do all they can to get parental consent. If the parents are vehemently opposed,
I believe it's worth stepping back to understand why the parents are resolute
in their disapproval and asking the Lord to show them how to resolve whatever
issues are causing the parents to withhold their consent. If you're already
married, lack of parental consent is not enough ground to dissolve the union.
Please commit your marriage to the Lord and ask Him to help you in this and
other critical areas.
As I stated earlier, many marital challenges result from
a lack of understanding of the purpose of marriage. Late Dr. Myles Munroe said
"When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable." So let's ask
ourselves "What is the purpose of marriage?" Please feel free to also
ask yourself (as a single person) - "Why do I want to get married?"
And married persons can ask "Why did I get married?"
I'll attempt to present my findings on the purpose of
marriage. Please feel free to add your contributions.
1. Fellowship and Companionship
In Genesis 2:18, God looked at Adam and by Himself decided
that it is not good for man to be alone. So, the search for a companion
started. No animal was considered to be good enough. God needed to bring the
woman out of the man. She is the bone of his bone and the flesh of his flesh.
She is precious to God, sir. My dear sister, the man you're married to is God's
son. Your spouse is a gift from God; no spouse is permitted Biblically to
manipulate or mistreat the other spouse. You are to be a conduit of God's love
to your spouse. May the Lord help us all and bless our homes.
Your spouse ought to be your friend. I know that one
needs to exercise caution and wisdom in telling all (though I believe over
time, you should be at the point where you share freely). It shouldn't be hard
to communicate with your life companion.
2. To provide a stable home for children to grow in God
told us in Malachi 2:13-17 that He is seeking a godly seed. Therefore, He
warned the men not to deal treacherously with the wife of their youth. The
famous "God hates divorce" is in this passage. If you read the entire
Malachi 2, God was actually addressing men. I believe it is not accurate to
quote Malachi 2: 16 to women who are fed up with the torture they're receiving
from the men they married. I believe in marital restoration; and I also believe
in caring for the mental state of the woman dealing with the not-so-perfect
marriage. May the Lord help us all.
I'll like to share Malachi 2:16b as a plea (I guess you
know it's actually a directive from God) "So watch yourselves. Don’t let
your guard down. Don’t cheat."
Malachi 2:16b (The Message Translation)
Please share other Biblical reasons for getting married.
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