I stumbled on a conversation about ladies sleeping with men they are not married to and refusing to use condoms because they don't want to be viewed as "bad girls" and eventually getting pregnant.
In my opinion, the real issue is sleeping with a man you're not married with. Contrary to popular opinion, you can abstain from pre-marital sex. The Bible is clear on God's position about fornication. It is a sin.
Of course, there is room for repentance for those that have fallen into the sin. The Yoruba word used for repentance literally means 'to think about the issue and change your ways'.
Abstinence is still the best prevention for sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. All other forms of prevention can fail.
If a guy is pressuring you for sex, I think it's time to break up that relationship. He is not yet ready for the kind of commitment that marriage requires. If he can't wait now, you can be sure that he will be pressuring and threatening you while you're recovering after delivery. He still has self-control lessons to complete.
If you're hoping to trap a man into marriage because you got pregnant, feel free to check with Leah how forcing a man whose heart is elsewhere to marry you works out (This is not an overt or covert endorsement of adultery/polygamy, please). You'll be a frustrated married woman...
If he says "No pregnancy, no marriage"; that's all you need to know that he doesn't have a clue what marriage means...Keep walking, girl. God will bring you a mature man who understands that the proper order is marriage then pregnancy!
Abstinence is an option and is very possible! It starts with your will and commitment.
PS: Getting married as a virgin does not guarantee a trouble-free marriage; you'll still need to walk by faith and let God lead you every step of the way.
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