FEEDBACK FROM “QUESTIONS BOUNCING IN MY HEAD”

COMMENT:

Morning ma and thank you for this text.  God will give us all happy homes IJN. Marriage and the church as an entity have deeper meaning or different meaning to/from marriage and the church as separate entities. The covenant taken remains intact to God as long as the two parties involve are still alive even if there are issues in the family and the only condition that can make any of the two parties to enter another covenant with another person is the death of any of the parties and the only condition given to us by our Jesus Christ, which is also forgivable, is adultery. The issue of entering into another covenant is out of it because what will now be terms and conditions of this new covenant? It will not be biblical again. It shall be well with us all.

 

RESPONSE:

Amen. May the Lord give us happy homes. Thanks for your response.

Can you please clarify what you mean by “Marriage and the church as an entity has deeper meaning or different meaninig to/from marriage and the church as separate entities.” It is not clear to me.

I’ll appreciate it if you can point me to scriptures that support the claim that “The covenant taken remains intact to God as long as the two parties involve are still alive even if there are issues in the family”. I don’t mean to be adversarial so please pardon me if I seem to be; I’m only seeking clarification.

If we assume that the claim that the covenant taken remains intact to God AS LONG AS the two parties are STILL ALIVE, then the condition of adultery (which is one of the clear violations I listed out) cannot stand as the two parties still remain alive after the act(s) of adultery.

I agree that adultery is forgivable. The question here is not one of forgiveness but of a willingness to continue with the marriage after forgiving one’s spouse. I can forgive you for cheating me as a business partner but I am not under any obligation to continue to do business with you. The choice of continuing with the partnership is separate from forgiving the sin. A lot of people ASSUME that forgiving the adultery equals continuing with the marriage (usually without addressing root causes and the legitimate hurt of the cheated partner). Hence we have cases of spouses who have ‘forgiven’ but then go around to commit acts of violence such as castrating/poisoning/killing the cheating man etc or committing acts to sabotage such a cheating partner while remaining ‘married’ in the eyes of the world.

In my opinion, any marriage that has been challenged by adultery, domestic violence or abandonment has deep-seated issues and needs some form of counselling of both parties (with a lot of divine intervention) to continue. Coercing someone to stay on based on the fact that “God hates divorce” is just postponing the evil day.

In many instances in the Old Testament, after the people of Israel who had committed whoredoms were exiled and managed to be restored to God, they always came back to reaffirm the covenant. At some point, however, God decided to do away with the old covenant and make a new one. See Jeremiah 31:31.

Thanks for your feedback, I really appreciate it. May God bless our homes.