“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth
not the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31: 27
Once again, someone has asked me for more information about
myself. I will oblige you this time BECAUSE IT TIES INTO WHAT I WAS GOING TO
WRITE ABOUT ANYWAY. I’ll let you know, though, that I am at liberty to reveal
what I wish to reveal about myself when I want to. I also realise that you have
the right to choose your friends, real or virtual. If you need more information
than I’m willing to divulge, please use whatever buttons Facebook has given you
to protect your privacy…
Now to the real gist of the post…I grew up in a family with
strong women. I have/had aunts, cousins and other female relatives who went
through terrible pains in the name of marriage. I decided not to get married
because I didn’t believe I could stand the crap that these wonderful women
endured in the name of marriage. Eventually, though, a young man swept me off
my feet and I almost made him my ‘god’. Thankfully, he is a firm believer in
women empowerment because I really would have considered dropping it all and
staying in ‘utopia’ with him 9Hint: I’m not looking for another man to ‘sweep’
me off my feet). I’m back on earth now because my ‘knight in shining armor’ has
some dents in the said armor. The focus of this post is not marriage so I’ll
hurry to my point.
These strong women had to deal with all sorts of crap from
the men they married. We can debate till we’re blue in the face on whether they
deserved it or not because they 1) snatched someone’s boyfriend, 2) saw the
traits yet went ahead to marry the dude or 30 whatever else tickles your
fancy…One thing I learnt from these women that I hope to pass on to my child is
the fact that they didn’t let the crap their husbands were dishing out keep
them down. They still went on to make and are still making successes of their
lives.
I can’t deal with the way some women’s life ambition is to
get married and have kids. I have no qualms with having a family and looking
out for the well-being of the family (that’s the first part of the verse I
quoted). What I have issues with is how some women hand over their financial
future to a man, who at his very best, is still a man. Then there are those
sisters/mothers that won’t stop pestering their married brothers/sons. With all
due respect, you’re causing strains in your brother/son’s marriage. In the name
of all that you hold dear, please get a life. I don’t mean to disrespect you;
it’s just that your conduct leaves a lot to be desired and someone needs to
tell you. Please, get past whatever hurt, disappointment or whatever and make
something enviable out of your life. I’m sorry you had to/have to deal with
crap; God will see you through as you prayerfully endure. While you’re praying
for a change in your situation, please can you get busy? Many, if not all, of
the heroines in the Bible had to deal with crap in their family lives yet they
went on to give us wonderful role models to look up to. Sarrah had no kid; Rebekkah
had no kids and married to a passive man who was possibly an over-pampered dude.
Leah was in a loveless marriage, Rachel had to contend with her blood sister
for her husband. We have no clue what Lappidoth was up to yet Deborah judged
Israel and together with Jael and Barak led Israel to a victory that resulted
in 40 years of peace. Please feel free to add your favorite heroine’s story to
the mix.
I trust that there are men who give their wives as much as
they can; they sacrifice for their families. I salute you sirs. However, I have
an issue with you…I hope you’re not enabling your wife or any of your female
relatives to eat the bread of idleness. I hope you haven’t become their “Alpha
and Omega”. If that’s the case, please sir, repent and encourage her to get
busy…She needs some empowerment.
Enjoy the day and be the change you’re expecting…
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