Thursday, May 7, 2015

You're making me late


Brother Stanley and Sister Grace have 3 kids. Brother Stanley is the Head Usher in the church. Sister Grace used to be a committed member of the choir before she got married and the kids arrived.

Frankly, Brother Stanley doesn't help much with the kids. He was raised to believe that it is a woman's role. Afterall, his mother raised 5 kids without much interference from his dad.

 

Sister Grace is overloaded and won't mind if her own day has 25 or 26 hours. She is exhausted day in, day out. She has been taught that the virtuous woman makes it work somehow. She and Brother Stanley agree that only lazy women hire people to do the woman's "job".

 

On service days, Brother Stanley drives everyone to church. He expects everyone to get ready by a certain time. He doesn't want to go late to church because as the Head Usher, he has to get to church on time. The punishment for coming late is a fine of 2000 Naira. He has left his family more than twice to find their way to church.

 

On one occasion, Sis Grace didn't have a lot of money with her so she had to manage with the kids in a bus while Brother Stanley drove in the car and picked up some church members along the way. He is considered very generous and helpful by church members but his family members are not enjoying that grace.

 

Sister Grace is trying to learn how to drive but her schedule doesn't support such extra-curricular activities. Deep inside, she feels alone and in addition, whenever there is a "return to your first love" message, she feels guilty about her lack of commitment in the choir these days. Should she just accept this situation as her cross? Or is there something more she can do?

 

Your views may save a home today.

 

**Names have been changed to protect the identities of the parties concerned**

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