My thoughts on Domestic Violence

My thoughts on Domestic Violence (Physical abuse supposedly provoked by tongue-lashing)

 

My issue is a man claiming he beat his wife because she provoked him to it. I'm convinced that wife-battering was not the ONLY option he had. Unfortunately, wife-battering is going to land him in jail if reported in many cities of the world whereas tongue-lashing isn't a criminal offence. The man who beats his wife does so because he feels he is superior to her and she can't do anything about it. I'll have loved to attribute wife-battering to a lack of self-control but the same man will restrain himself if someone he considers his superior does something similar or worse than what his wife has (wrongly) done to him. My understanding of the term 1 Peter 3:7 includes honoring a wife even if she is acting like a cow.

 

There are better conflict resolution options than domestic violence. An easy one is to switch off emotionally when she's misyarning (if she's not allowing you leave). It takes two to quarrel really; if you ignore her AT THAT MOMENT, she is very likely to run out of steam. Praying under your breath is another option.

 

So, it's hard for me to accept the "She provoked me" angle. I don't believe the law enforcement agent will either...

 

Another question is this - will this man beat his mother if she does the same thing his wife did to "provoke" him? He should have enough self-mastery to address the issue without resorting to violence.

 

There was a day I was going past what I consider to be a slum. I overheard a lady tongue-lashing her husband, airing her dirty linen in public. If not for the comments of those around, you won't believe she was talking to that man. He continued doing whatever it was he was doing. If anyone deserved to be provoked, it was definitely that man. I've seen a front desk lady fling an envelope at a man that is her senior in every ramification.

 

If the woman is obstinate, involve an elder. If she disgraces you and the elder(s), you can consider taking your kids and leaving for a while. Loneliness should help her grow up faster...

 

In one of Tyler Perry's movies that addressed this theme, the "elder" was the lady's aunt. The lady sure was a lying witch that tried to set her kids against their father. She LIED about him hitting her so her son could beat up his father. I don't dispute the fact that there are manipulative witches; unfortunately they are rarely the victims of domestic violence...

 

I found an article that presents my thoughts on this pressing issue succinctly. The link is below. If you have been abusing your spouse, it's time to stop victim-blaming and get godly, professional help. If you are a victim of domestic abuse, get professional godly help.

ABUSE IS NEVER THE VICTIM'S FAULT!

 

Here's the link to the article - http://www.endthefear.co.uk/information/what-is-domestic-abuse/myths-about-domestic-abuse/

 

Enjoy your day.