Saturday, June 27, 2015

THOUGHTS ABOUT TAMAR (2)


Good day everyone.

I'm moving on to Tamar 2. Her story can be found in 2 Samuel 13.

Tamar is the only DAUGHTER of David we learn about. 1 Chronicles 3 suggests that she was his ONLY daughter, though we don't know that for sure. Daughters were rarely mentioned in Biblical genealogies. Don't ask me why, I don't know...Maybe they were trying to save ink and paper, lol. Whatever the case, Tamar was the only recorded daughter of David...It must have been pretty lonely if she was the only royal princess. She may have been really pampered.

 

I wonder what Tamar did to attract Amnon's "love". At least, we can claim that Dinah, the first recorded rape victim in the Bible, left her home in a bid to explore the land. Tamar was raped in her own home by her half-brother...

Amnon had an evil friend called Jonadab. Parents, we need to pray for our kids that they are shielded from evil friends who will give them evil counsel that would truncate their destinies and bring grief to your household. Pray against evil counsellors in YOUR life and in the life of your loved ones. Guard your heart and check every counsel you receive...Evil counsel eventually led Amnon to rape his sister and ultimately lose his life...It is not a joking matter...#BeGuided.

 

I'm wondering why David did not ask Amnon why only Tamar could serve him. Had she become a healer? Parents, be careful the kind of errands you send your children on. I was told of a woman who sent her daughter to go and help her collect money from a male customer who left his house to buy something without holding any money. He told the seller to allow her daughter follow him home to collect the money and she accepted the request. The lady telling me the story said she was in the woman's shop when this happened and after the man left with the girl, she warned her mother NEVER to do such again. I don't know how it ended for the girl but I hope she left the man's house with only the money he owed...Parents, be guided.

 

People, don't lose your sense of judgment in a bid to "Honour your father/mother ooo"...While it is good to honour them, ensure that it is IN THE LORD. Mother/father do not always know best...If they did, Jonadab would have been banned from the palace...Some destinies have been destroyed because people followed their parents BLINDLY...Let he/she that hath an ear hear what the Spirit is saying...

 

Tamar tried to negotiate with a rapist. The girl sef! The door wasn't locked na (Amnon asked the servant to bolt the door after her when he had concluded his evil).  Couldn't she have immobilized him with whatever was in her hand? I don't think God would have minded. Of course, many of us have ideas of what the rape victim could have done in such a situation. The unfortunate thing is that it is MEDICINE AFTER DEATH for the rape victim. It MAY be helpful as a tip for others, though no two rape cases are exactly the same. We need to be sensitive when addressing a rape victim...IT IS NEVER THE VICTIM's FAULT!

 

Annoyingly, after the rape, Amnon hated Tamar exceedingly. See why I had the initial "love" in quotes? It was actually lust, a counterfeit...True love never forces itself on another...Perfect love casts out all fear...Amnon NEVER loved Tamar; it was his inordinate desire for his sister that made Jonadab's counsel attractive and led him to rape his sister. A series of consequences, including Amnon's death, result from this. If you don't kill that inordinate desire, it will kill you! You have to mortify it...Identify the triggers, demystify it and kill it...Even if it doesn't result in physical death, it will alter the course of your life NEGATIVELY...#BeGuided.

 

David got the report of all that had happened. He was "very angry" yet he did NOTHING about it for 2 whole years...People, that matter you "swept under the carpet" is still there, waiting for an opportunity to come out...When it seeps out, it will be deadly! David's decision to ignore this issue almost cost him the throne and his life...Let he/she that hath an ear hear what the Spirit is saying...

 

Absalom heard of the issue...I guess he waited for David to do something about it...When it was obvious that David wasn't going to do anything about it, he took laws into his own hands. We need to be careful when addressing injustice. Two wrongs don't make a right (except in Mathematics, lol). Absalom was trying to right a wrong; it eventually cost him his life...#BeGuided

 

We really need to be wary of people like Jonadab. He monitored Amnon until he died. He was the one that reported Amnon's death to David. Pray that God reveals the activities of the Jonadabs in your life to you and helps you sever every tie with them...May the Lord deliver us from such people. You too, make sure you check every counsel against the Word of God. Your life/destiny is at stake...God will help us all.

 

We never heard from Tamar 2 after this unfortunate story. I think it was bitterness that kept her sad. She became a DESOLATE woman. Why? Many rape survivors have gone on to bless the world with great achievements. It is eventually up to you, dear rape victim, if you'll allow the unfortunate incident make you a desolate woman or if you will rise above it to become the woman God made you to be. I know you feel broken and traumatized; I won't ask you to stop crying. I'll only ask you to make sure you're making deposits into the future as you weep. God will cause you to smile again...

 

Tamar 3 was actually Absalom's daughter...For me, she represents hope of a comeback...

 

Enjoy your day.

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