Saturday, June 6, 2015

STILL ON CHOOSING WORDS CAREFULLY


Good day.

I was on a motorcycle a few days ago. As we were on our way, the rider had a call. His body language indicated that he didn't want to pick the call but he had to. Thankfully, he parked the motorcycle to receive the call. I wasn't in too much of a hurry so I decided to wait for him to finish before continuing the journey.

As he brought out the phone, his first comment was "Olori buruku yi tun ti pe" (This unfortunate being is calling me again). I was shocked! As he conversed, I realised that the person he was talking to was his wife.

 

As we continued the journey, I asked him why he referred to his wife as an unfortunate being. Apparently, the wife forgot the key to the house where she went and had been pestering him with phone calls to come back home quickly and let her in. Obviously, the pestering was getting to him. He hadn't worked much all day because it rained and she wanted him to stop work and fix her mistake. He claimed that the next day, she would be the one shouting at him asking for money.

Since it was the man I had access to, I told him to stop using terrible words in reference to his wife. I told him that as the priest of the home, he had to speak what he wants to see and that though I don't expect him to leave his job to attend to his wife's whims, I expect him to accommodate her weaknesses and manage her properly. I believe he listened because I saw his expression soften.

 

Dear husbands, please live with your wife according to knowledge. You were the bridegroom at the wedding. You have to tend your garden. The first thing is to commit to praying for her daily. Then you need to appreciate her and her efforts. When she isn't acting right, point it out to her gently and lovingly.

 

Dear wife, be careful of little foxes that spoil the vine. If I had access to the man's wife, I'll have told her she was acting like a brat. SHE forgot her key so SHE had to wait PATIENTLY (not disturbing him with phone calls) till he got back home (I'm sure the husband of a patient woman won't keep her waiting, though). I'll also have told her that shouting at your husband and telling the whole world that he didn't give you "chop money" is a quick way to destroy your family. When you are not handicap (And many handicaps are making waves, please). This is a good time to quote Proverbs 14:1 "The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down." Proverbs 14:1 (NIV)

 

Enjoy your day!

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