If you are not open to having "third party" interference, even when they mean well, in your home, then you should be extremely open to hearing what your spouse is actually saying or trying to say at all times.
If you expect your spouse to always open up to you, you need to take even their criticisms (not abuse oooo) in good fate and ask for their opinions on how they think you can improve in the areas that they have pointed out. Agree on a plan that involves both of you. Don't use that opportunity to tell them their areas of weakness, except that was the plan.
If you have to point out your spouse's flaws, be gracious about it. No one naturally takes criticism well. Let them know you value their presence in your life and you are only pointing out the issues because you want their continuous improvement. Come up with a way to address the issue that involves you. That demonstrates your commitment to the relationship. For example, if your wife is medically obese and needs weight management, offer to sign both of you up in the gym and agree to join her in dieting. Be her accountability partner. Don't just tell her "You are overweight, go and do something about it". Your involvement in the weight management program will be a great motivator.
Take time daily to pray with and for your spouse daily. You will be alright! Enjoy your day.
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