There is something that concerns me about this generation...
Person A will be happily married to or courting Person B (at least in their minds). One day, they will log on to Facebook and somehow scroll till they get to "The Women Stories". They'll see a post that starts with "From my inbox" and something will make them stop and read.
As Person A reads through the post, he/she starts to feel like the story sounds familiar. So, he/she sends a message to the page and after a few questions here and there, they discover that they were not being paranoid. Person B had actually preferred to tell Hephzibah Oyinda the thing wey dey pepper them for body (due credits to Nora Oma Patrick) than to talk to the person they took vows with and share a house with (or are planning to).
Person A is rudely jolted into the reality that the marriage/relationship they thought was a happy one is not so happy after all? Person A now has to make a choice. Should he/she wash their dirty linen in public (and even make up stories to discredit the witness) or should he/she take the high road and initiate counselling?
Personally, my inbox is open to anyone that needs to vent (just go straight to the point after greeting me ONCE abeg. Data don cost). The first question I usually ask when you start complaining about your spouse/intended is usually "Have you discussed this with him/her?" Then ridiculous answers start.
The ones that amuse me the most are the ones from women that don't want to come across to the "Lion King" they are married to as being "unsubmissive". Seriously, are you listening to yourself? Which one is more disrespectful? What you are doing or having a civil conversation with your (soon-to-be) life partner?
Any spouse/intended that you cannot have a civil conversation with is a red flag. If you are married, it is a sign that you probably need to head to marriage clinic (marital counselling). I know at least one counselor that can help you. I'll be happy to make the connection, if you can't reach her yourself. If you are still courting, it is a red flag and a show stopper. Spouse that you can't have a civil conversation with and resolve issues amicably, is that one spouse? Better let the "competition" 'win' him/her and go for Thanksgiving for deliverance from destiny drainers...
If abuse is involved, please take steps to preserve your life. You need to be alive to be married or to be courting. There is no special reward in heaven or punishment in hell for people who were killed by their spouses/intended; those are lies from the pits of hell. Precious in the eyes of the Lord is the death of His saints. God prefers you to stay alive, well and prosperous. If you are the abuser, get help. Get in touch and let's help you get counselling.
Please let's create a conducive environment for productive conversations in our relationships. Enjoy your day.
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