Decision Making For Girls

I've been thinking...

I think that, on the average, girls are not taught DECISION-MAKING.  I believe decision-making is an art that gets better and better as one exercises his or her brain.

Women, on the average,  have someone trying to plan how their lives should go, particularly in these parts.  If it's not a father trying to tell her which school to attend or which course to study,  it's an uncle trying to tell her which apartment to rent.  Sometimes,  it's her well-meaning cousin trying to tell her where/how to invest her money or a nice boyfriend trying to tell her who she should keep as friends.  Or it's the well-meaning husband trying to ensure that she doesn't lack any good thing so he kills himself trying to provide.

Of course there are malicious men trying to take advantage of her but sometimes, when she is surrounded by well-meaning people, her development is still stunted because she isn't allowed to improve her decision-making skills.

I am speaking as a woman who struggled in this area for long and I am still struggling to overcome the natural tendency to find someone to hide behind when there are tough decisions to be made.  I started breaking out of it when on a few occasions, my husband REFUSED to take my tough decisions for me.  I kept telling him that as the head of the home, he should have the final say but he asked me what I FELT the right decision should be... I had no clue because I am used to having someone else deal with the really tough decisions.

I am getting better with decision-making now but I  realize it is a very tough turf for someone like me who normally beats herself up when there is a negative outcome as a result of my decisions. I find it easier when someone else took the decision that ended terribly.  I try not to say "I told you so" but I inwardly laugh and tell myself "Thank God,  I'm not the one that got us here"...Lol.

What I've pledged to do with my child(ren) is to start giving them opportunities to make decisions as early as possible... Start teaching them that today's decisions have consequences tomorrow... And helping them connect the consequences with the decisions...

How is the day going?