I have a question...
Why is it that we usually expect the hurt person to still do right in spite of the fact that they are dealing with the knowledge that a person that they trusted enough to bring into their private (and many times) intimate space deliberately took actions that betrayed that trust?
What pains me the most is that some will hurt you then dictate to you what to do with your hurt. If you're insensitive enough to hurt someone that opened up their hearts to you, I think you should stay away (after apologizing). If/when the person you've hurt heals enough to allow you again into their space, you can come in and work things out. If they decide to cut off from you, I don't think it's in your place to blackmail them with the "Forgiveness" sermon.
The fact of the matter is that betrayal inflicts an emotional wound. Just like one needs to treat a physical wound so he/she can function properly again, you need to treat that emotional wound so you can function properly again. Pretending that it meant nothing means you're allowing the wound to fester. Sooner than later, it will corrode your other relationships. Then the bitterness will begin to seep out and you'll be lashing out at others. Get help... You're welcome to come to my inbox (Please get to the point QUICKLY...Thanks) and I'll point you to qualified people.
You can watch War Room all you like but it is not likely to heal your emotional wounds. Some will tell you to tell it ONLY to Jesus but I beg to remove the "ONLY"... Tell it to Jesus and let those that are qualified also help you. Stay strong my friend... The Potter is still in the business of mending broken hearts...
Enjoy your day.
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