Repeat after me, "The choice to stay with or leave a cheat resides with the cheated spouse"....
On one hand, you have those that will tell you "Divorce is not an option, you MUST stay and prevail in prayers". On the other hand, you have those that mock the cheated spouse who chose to stay and work things out. I disagree with both sides...
If someone chooses to walk away from a philanderer, IT IS OKAY...I prefer that to staying and committing murder, abeg. And if someone chooses to stay and work things out, I hope they don't harbour bitterness. I also hope they allow themselves heal and take care of themselves.
The choice and guilt resides with the cheating spouse, not the cheated spouse. If there are things you could have done better, by all means fix them. Please, don't let your spouse's choices take away your joy and peace. You are still valuable to God and to humanity. Don't let your story end with "he/she stopped living because his/her spouse cheated".
All those who have opinions on what the cheated spouse should (not) do, perhaps if you wait long enough, you may be able to wear the shoes and take your own advice? Ouch, I just stepped on my own toes...
That's my message tonight. Feel free to quarrel, I'll be gone till September, lol. Good night....
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