Once again, someone has asked me for more information about myself. I will oblige you this time BECAUSE IT TIES INTO WHAT I WAS GOING TO WRITE ABOUT ANYWAY. I’ll let you know, though, that I am at liberty to reveal what I wish to reveal about myself when I want to. I also realise that you have the right to choose your friends, real or virtual. If you need more information than I’m willing to divulge, please use whatever buttons Facebook has given you to protect your privacy…
Now to the real gist of the post…I grew up in a family with strong women. I have/had aunts, cousins and other female relatives who went through terrible pains in the name of marriage. I decided not to get married because I didn’t believe I could stand the crap that these wonderful women endured in the name of marriage. Eventually, though, a young man swept me off my feet and I almost made him my ‘god’.
Thankfully, he is a firm believer in women empowerment because I really would have considered dropping it all and staying in ‘utopia’ with him (Hint: I’m not looking for another man to ‘sweep’ me off my feet). I’m back on earth now because my ‘knight in shining armor’ has some dents in the said armor. The focus of this post is not marriage so I’ll hurry to my point.
These strong women had to deal with all sorts of crap from the men they married. We can debate till we’re blue in the face on whether they deserved it or not because they
1) snatched someone’s boyfriend,
2) saw the traits yet went ahead to marry the dude or 3) whatever else tickles your fancy…
One thing I learnt from these women that I hope to pass on to my child(ren) is the fact that they didn’t let the crap their husbands or family members/in-laws were dishing out keep them down. They still went on to make and are still making successes of their lives.
I can’t deal with the way some women’s life ambition is to get married and have kids. I have no qualms with having a family and looking out for the well-being of the family (that’s the first part of the verse I quoted). What I have issues with is how some women hand over their financial future to a man, who at his very best, is still a man.
Then there are those sisters/mothers that won’t stop pestering their married brothers/sons for financial support. With all due respect, you’re causing strains in your brother/son’s marriage. In the name of all that you hold dear, please get a life. I don’t mean to disrespect you; it’s just that your conduct leaves a lot to be desired and someone needs to tell you. Please, get past whatever hurt, disappointment or whatever and make something enviable out of your life. I’m sorry you had to/have to deal with crap; God will see you through as you prayerfully endure. While you’re praying for a change in your situation, please can you get busy?
Many, if not all, of the heroines in the Bible had to deal with crap in their family lives yet they went on to give us wonderful role models to look up to. Sarah had no kid; Rebekkah had no kids and was married to a passive man who was possibly an over-pampered dude. Leah was in a loveless marriage, Rachel had to contend with her blood sister for her husband. We have no clue what Lappidoth was up to yet Deborah judged Israel and together with Jael and Barak led Israel to a victory that resulted in 40 years of peace. Please feel free to add your favorite heroine’s story to the mix.
I trust that there are men who give their wives as much as they can; they sacrifice for their families. I salute you, sirs. However, I have an issue with you…I hope you’re not enabling your wife or any of your female relatives to eat the bread of idleness. I hope you haven’t become their “Alpha and Omega”. If that’s the case, please sir, repent and encourage her to get busy…She needs some empowerment.
If you’re a woman on my friends’ list and you don’t mind connecting with other women who are not idle, rude or generally poorly-behaved people, please let me know if you’re interested in joining a Facebook group created with you in mind. We share business/career tips and opportunities that are particularly targeted at women. I’ll need you to either leave a comment or send me a private message. I’ll add you ASAP. Please note that there are specific market days so please don’t post adverts on non-market days. I’ll recommend to the Admins that they take disciplinary action against anyone that does not comply with the rules and particularly anyone that puts up posts seeking non-business/career related counsel. My pet peeve is all those mindless BCs requiring people to send to a certain number of people so that there will be no evil outcome…That’s the #1 symptom of idleness and a serious infraction, in my opinion. My sisters, abeg don’t fall my hand when I add you to the group. Thanks in advance.
My darling brothers, I am only a member in the group so my influence in the group is minimal. If you think there is value in creating such a group for men and women, please let me know in the comments. If I see enough interests, I’ll start the group though I won’t be the major Admin. It’s the first man and woman to indicate interest in such a group that will be the Admins ooo, lol #NoTime.
Enjoy the day and be the change you’re expecting…
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