My blog post that has had the highest views so far was titled "
When Your Husband Won't Make Love To You". The other one that has come close to it is the one about
Yewande Oyediran (nee Fatoki), the lady that allegedly murdered her husband. I guess if I was a blogger interested in monetizing my blog, I'll focus more on those kind of stories. That's not where I'm going today, though.
Yesterday, I saw a post on my Big Sis' wall about a man who patronized those people selling 'gbogbonise' to enhance his sexual performance because his wife was always taunting him. He eventually died because some of his nerves were damaged. Her conclusion about men with Erectile Dysfunction (ED) consulting with trained medical doctors is faultless. Her conclusion about wives of men with ED is almost flawless. I have a few more recommendations, which are in the blog post I talked about in the opening paragraph.
What I want to shed some light on today is how the sexual frustration of the wife of the man with ED is waved away by both the man and people around. There is the camp that will ask her " Is sex food?". Then there's the camp that will ask her to seduce him bla bla bla. Do you honestly think she hasn't tried that?
The responses from some of these men can make someone commit adultery, murder or suicide. One lady told me that when she raised her concerns with her husband (who may or may not have ED, he has refused to see a doctor as he does not think there is a problem), he asked her to find a lover to satisfy her.
I read about a young man who claimed that if his wife disrespects him in public, he will punish her by starving her sexually for about a year. He claims he would get himself a side chic to satisfy him but she won't be able to get a side guy because their tradition and faith will not allow her get one. This guy is yet to get married o.
I read of a lady that burned down the house because she had been sexually starved for 5 years. I think she made the confession to the police.
For a woman trying to conceive, I think the men with ED who refuse to get medical treatment are just being wicked. Please let me know if I'm too harsh.
We keep harping on women denying their husband sexually (I don't think we should stop) and skirt around the issue of men sexually depriving their wives. I think they should get the same amount of attention, honestly, considering the fact that ED is treatable.
