I've fallen again for one of the cancer awareness one liners. This time, one of my aunties said she had been accepted on Master Chef... That's how I carried myself to congratulate her... To like or comment on Facebook is now unattractive...
Anyway, I'm travelling to Hawaii... If you like, like or comment... That means you've nominated yourself as a cancer awareness advocate... If you do, ensure you are at least as consistent to the cause as Aunty Oby is consistent to the "Bring Back Our Girls" campaign... Stage a sit-in and tape your mouth, if necessary...
I pray for every cancer victim/survivor, that God will comfort them in the way only He can. I pray for everyone with family and friends battling cancer that the Lord will comfort us and strengthen us in the way only He can. I pray for everyone that has lost a loved one to cancer that the peace of God that passes all human understanding will garrison our hearts...
Enjoy your day.
Tuesday, August 30, 2016
Friday, August 26, 2016
Survival Tips In A Buhari Economy
This topic has been bouncing around in my head all week. So, I'll just write the vision and make it plain. Last night, I learnt the dollar is now 419 Naira. Nigerians know what the number "419" stands...Frankly, that's how I feel about the whole "change" charade but let's not dwell on that.
I'll like to share a few tips that can help minimize the hardship being experienced in this economy. Please feel free to share your tips too.
1. Track all your expenses and identify opportunities for cost savings. Look at what you spend and justify every expense. Check if you can get cheaper rates elsewhere without compromising on the utility derived. Ask yourself if you can't actually do the task yourself. I hand wash my clothes (if you don't want to, don't mind me jere). These are the practical benefits I get from hand washing.
- I save the money I would have given someone else to help me wash them or the money I would have paid for the electricity used for a washing machine.
- I get to spend the time meditating and getting inspiration and sometimes answers for pressing issues.
Erm, if you're too busy for hand washing, do what works for you o...
2. Increase your streams of income. Think outside your job. Find something legitimate you can add to your hustle.
3. If you're going to invest in a business, do your due diligence. If it will rely on human beings, make sure the Key Performance Indicators (KPIs) are set such that they have more to gain if the business succeeds. Some businesses pay their agents commissions on completed transactions (the orders that have been paid for). If you're just starting up, consider getting freelancers instead of full time staff and set milestones after which they'll be paid.
4. Don't spend all you earn. Set some aside and invest for the future. Don't put all your eggs in one basket though. Diversify your portfolio. Be careful, though, with investment opportunities that offer unrealistic return on investments (ROI). Also, ask about the goods/services that the business is involved in. If there is no product or service involved, it is a Ponzi scheme. Forget all the IPads and cars they are promising you. They are exploiting the universal nature that desires great benefits with minimal efforts. That's what happened with Wonder Banks. Don't be a victim.
5. Look out for referral programs, coupons, promotions. Use your social media presence to your advantage. Don't just spend time online looking for who to shade or sub. If your cause isn't saving or earning you money, please find another cause. You can join our Professionals Without Borders group to learn about Deals and Opportunities around you.
6. I am a believer so I'll add this point. If you don't believe, please feel free to ignore. God takes care of His own, even in famine. God told Elijah where to go when there was famine in the land. Elijah did as he was instructed during famine and he was preserved. These days, we have to ensure that our fellowship with the Father is tight. He will lead us aright. Also, be careful with "propheliers" that will come up with many "visions" that will rob you of your money and leave you destitute. Some of them are in suits o... They are just like the wonder banks but they are feeding on the fact that you have refused to grow up and study for yourself. Grow up so you won't be tossed to and fro...
Let me stop here before I start preaching. If there are more tips you'll like to share, please go ahead. Enjoy your day.
I'll like to share a few tips that can help minimize the hardship being experienced in this economy. Please feel free to share your tips too.
1. Track all your expenses and identify opportunities for cost savings. Look at what you spend and justify every expense. Check if you can get cheaper rates elsewhere without compromising on the utility derived. Ask yourself if you can't actually do the task yourself. I hand wash my clothes (if you don't want to, don't mind me jere). These are the practical benefits I get from hand washing.
- I save the money I would have given someone else to help me wash them or the money I would have paid for the electricity used for a washing machine.
- I get to spend the time meditating and getting inspiration and sometimes answers for pressing issues.
Erm, if you're too busy for hand washing, do what works for you o...
2. Increase your streams of income. Think outside your job. Find something legitimate you can add to your hustle.
3. If you're going to invest in a business, do your due diligence. If it will rely on human beings, make sure the Key Performance Indicators (KPIs) are set such that they have more to gain if the business succeeds. Some businesses pay their agents commissions on completed transactions (the orders that have been paid for). If you're just starting up, consider getting freelancers instead of full time staff and set milestones after which they'll be paid.
4. Don't spend all you earn. Set some aside and invest for the future. Don't put all your eggs in one basket though. Diversify your portfolio. Be careful, though, with investment opportunities that offer unrealistic return on investments (ROI). Also, ask about the goods/services that the business is involved in. If there is no product or service involved, it is a Ponzi scheme. Forget all the IPads and cars they are promising you. They are exploiting the universal nature that desires great benefits with minimal efforts. That's what happened with Wonder Banks. Don't be a victim.
5. Look out for referral programs, coupons, promotions. Use your social media presence to your advantage. Don't just spend time online looking for who to shade or sub. If your cause isn't saving or earning you money, please find another cause. You can join our Professionals Without Borders group to learn about Deals and Opportunities around you.
6. I am a believer so I'll add this point. If you don't believe, please feel free to ignore. God takes care of His own, even in famine. God told Elijah where to go when there was famine in the land. Elijah did as he was instructed during famine and he was preserved. These days, we have to ensure that our fellowship with the Father is tight. He will lead us aright. Also, be careful with "propheliers" that will come up with many "visions" that will rob you of your money and leave you destitute. Some of them are in suits o... They are just like the wonder banks but they are feeding on the fact that you have refused to grow up and study for yourself. Grow up so you won't be tossed to and fro...
Let me stop here before I start preaching. If there are more tips you'll like to share, please go ahead. Enjoy your day.
Saturday, August 20, 2016
Sunday Morning Thoughts
Erm, so as incompetent as Nigerian healthcare professionals are alleged to be, they also have the superhuman capacity to cause cancer.. Wow...
I admit that Nigeria needs cleansing from top to bottom (or bottom to top, if you prefer). Or, how does one explain a country where NFF officials are planning to spend money donated to players to pay coaches' salaries or where an EFCC chairman (paid from our collective resources) threatens to arrest lawyers that defend those HIS EFCC have tagged to be criminals in court (scary stuff)? How does one explain the fact that a man poisoned his neighbour's food because the neighbour insulted him? (I'm wondering how he got to the neighbour's cooking pot, though). How do you explain the conduct of a young man who had no qualms splashing the name and pictures of a young lady who ALLEGEDLY spread Gonorrhea amongst young men (who incidentally were not named) that decided to have unprotected foursome sex and stole their valuables? What kind of children are we breeding?
Nigeria's biggest problem really is the way each of us do what seems good to US without thinking of the society at large. As we go to our individual places of worship (including your sitting room and bedroom), ask yourself if you're part of Nigeria's problem or part of the solution providers. Then C-H-A-N-G-E (not APC style ooo).
Happy Sunday. Please share what you learnt wherever you worshipped today. Enjoy your day.
I admit that Nigeria needs cleansing from top to bottom (or bottom to top, if you prefer). Or, how does one explain a country where NFF officials are planning to spend money donated to players to pay coaches' salaries or where an EFCC chairman (paid from our collective resources) threatens to arrest lawyers that defend those HIS EFCC have tagged to be criminals in court (scary stuff)? How does one explain the fact that a man poisoned his neighbour's food because the neighbour insulted him? (I'm wondering how he got to the neighbour's cooking pot, though). How do you explain the conduct of a young man who had no qualms splashing the name and pictures of a young lady who ALLEGEDLY spread Gonorrhea amongst young men (who incidentally were not named) that decided to have unprotected foursome sex and stole their valuables? What kind of children are we breeding?
Nigeria's biggest problem really is the way each of us do what seems good to US without thinking of the society at large. As we go to our individual places of worship (including your sitting room and bedroom), ask yourself if you're part of Nigeria's problem or part of the solution providers. Then C-H-A-N-G-E (not APC style ooo).
Happy Sunday. Please share what you learnt wherever you worshipped today. Enjoy your day.
Thursday, August 4, 2016
USE YOUR "VOICE" WISELY
Today, I want to address women...I can't explain why but let me say that I woke up with the strong need to say this...
You know how I'm always shouting about women having voices in a marriage. Actually, I'm not about to change my mind on that. I believe BOTH husband and wife should have and USE their "voices" in the marriage. It is not godly to lord it over your spouse.
Today, I want to address womenfolk, not because men are superior. It's just that I feel very led to speak to women in particular. This morning, the Lord reminded me how I keep giving Eve and Sarah as examples of wives that had voices in their marriages. Of course, I agreed and was ready to write about that. But today's message took a different turn when I had to look at what they used their voices for. Both of them gave wrong counsel that altered the course of humanity.
Of course their husbands are not absolved of blame because they did not have to take the advice. I remember a story my VP in Secondary School told us about a young man that was advised to withdraw but was seen dragging his luggage in to the school the next term. When he was asked why he was returning to school after he was advised to withdraw, he told them he didn't take the advice. Oga, it's good to listen to your wife but you're responsible and accountable for your "FINAL ANSWER".
Back to women, just like your husband, you are responsible and accountable for giving bad advice. If all you're using your "voice" to do is to mislead and defame others, let me borrow Mama Peace's words to tell you "Chai, there is God o". We need to pass whatever we say through what is called " The Truth Test".
- Is it (factually) true? (If you're speculating or assuming, CLEARLY say so, please)
- Is it FAIR to all?
- Is it BENEFICIAL?
- Can I live comfortably even if I don't say it?
I heard women normally speak about 7000 words daily while men speak about 2000 words (I wonder if President Obama, Madam Merkel and one lawyer like that were included in this survey sha, lol). Woman, what are you doing with your words? Are you building up or tearing down? In case you were not "inform", we will give account of every word and action... Always try to remember that...
Enjoy your day.
You know how I'm always shouting about women having voices in a marriage. Actually, I'm not about to change my mind on that. I believe BOTH husband and wife should have and USE their "voices" in the marriage. It is not godly to lord it over your spouse.
Today, I want to address womenfolk, not because men are superior. It's just that I feel very led to speak to women in particular. This morning, the Lord reminded me how I keep giving Eve and Sarah as examples of wives that had voices in their marriages. Of course, I agreed and was ready to write about that. But today's message took a different turn when I had to look at what they used their voices for. Both of them gave wrong counsel that altered the course of humanity.
Of course their husbands are not absolved of blame because they did not have to take the advice. I remember a story my VP in Secondary School told us about a young man that was advised to withdraw but was seen dragging his luggage in to the school the next term. When he was asked why he was returning to school after he was advised to withdraw, he told them he didn't take the advice. Oga, it's good to listen to your wife but you're responsible and accountable for your "FINAL ANSWER".
Back to women, just like your husband, you are responsible and accountable for giving bad advice. If all you're using your "voice" to do is to mislead and defame others, let me borrow Mama Peace's words to tell you "Chai, there is God o". We need to pass whatever we say through what is called " The Truth Test".
- Is it (factually) true? (If you're speculating or assuming, CLEARLY say so, please)
- Is it FAIR to all?
- Is it BENEFICIAL?
- Can I live comfortably even if I don't say it?
I heard women normally speak about 7000 words daily while men speak about 2000 words (I wonder if President Obama, Madam Merkel and one lawyer like that were included in this survey sha, lol). Woman, what are you doing with your words? Are you building up or tearing down? In case you were not "inform", we will give account of every word and action... Always try to remember that...
Enjoy your day.
Tuesday, August 2, 2016
About "Marrying Within"
Yesterday, one of the younger ladies asked me if my husband follows me to MY church. I don't own any church so I quickly corrected her.
This "MY church", " YOUR church" matter was a source of conflict for us earlier on (I was the guilty party). I have since had a brain reset and we've moved on to greater heights. Yes, I left MY church, where I was told repeatedly to marry from "within" so we'll both be listening to the same thing. He also left the church he was attending where he wasn't told that. We initially tried MY church and I'll give it to him that he tried TOO hard to fit in. I had a brain reset and now we've found OUR church, where such myths are not peddled (It is a myth).
If you want to marry from "within", please go ahead. It is not okay to force/lure someone from "without" to come "within" just so you can get married. The "marry within" commandment is man-made and MAY have merits. However, I think intending couples should discuss this issue seriously before getting married. If they can't find a common ground, I think they should go their separate ways FRANKLY. I'm not a fan of letting a critical part of you go just to get married. I term that "settling".
For couples dealing with this, I think BOTH parties need to be open-minded. My deliverance came when I asked God to open my eyes that I may see. Then, I saw that I was the one causing majority of our conflicts. It is hard letting go and allowing my husband make decisions and taking the role of the co-leader but I realize that for the peace of God to reign, that's what I need to do.
I am not mute in the marriage; I've learnt to keep quiet and let my husband speak FIRST. Then, I say whatever else I think needs to be said. Thankfully, he has a good head on his shoulders and people usually say we think alike anyway. In the rare cases where I have more to add, I state my case and try to persuade (backed up with prayers). That's what I understand submission to be but let's not argue about that one today, lol.
Back to "marry within" matter, if you want to marry within, please go ahead. Just stop dragging those from "without" and trying to make them "within" by force. And if you're "without" and you meet a "marry within" person, let me tell you the raw truth, it's only in extremely rare cases that the mindset can be changed. As your sister, I'll advise you to escape while you can but if you like, you can go ahead and hope for a miracle. All the best.
Enjoy your day.
This "MY church", " YOUR church" matter was a source of conflict for us earlier on (I was the guilty party). I have since had a brain reset and we've moved on to greater heights. Yes, I left MY church, where I was told repeatedly to marry from "within" so we'll both be listening to the same thing. He also left the church he was attending where he wasn't told that. We initially tried MY church and I'll give it to him that he tried TOO hard to fit in. I had a brain reset and now we've found OUR church, where such myths are not peddled (It is a myth).
If you want to marry from "within", please go ahead. It is not okay to force/lure someone from "without" to come "within" just so you can get married. The "marry within" commandment is man-made and MAY have merits. However, I think intending couples should discuss this issue seriously before getting married. If they can't find a common ground, I think they should go their separate ways FRANKLY. I'm not a fan of letting a critical part of you go just to get married. I term that "settling".
For couples dealing with this, I think BOTH parties need to be open-minded. My deliverance came when I asked God to open my eyes that I may see. Then, I saw that I was the one causing majority of our conflicts. It is hard letting go and allowing my husband make decisions and taking the role of the co-leader but I realize that for the peace of God to reign, that's what I need to do.
I am not mute in the marriage; I've learnt to keep quiet and let my husband speak FIRST. Then, I say whatever else I think needs to be said. Thankfully, he has a good head on his shoulders and people usually say we think alike anyway. In the rare cases where I have more to add, I state my case and try to persuade (backed up with prayers). That's what I understand submission to be but let's not argue about that one today, lol.
Back to "marry within" matter, if you want to marry within, please go ahead. Just stop dragging those from "without" and trying to make them "within" by force. And if you're "without" and you meet a "marry within" person, let me tell you the raw truth, it's only in extremely rare cases that the mindset can be changed. As your sister, I'll advise you to escape while you can but if you like, you can go ahead and hope for a miracle. All the best.
Enjoy your day.
About Depression
I learnt today that, though women are more likely to fall into depression than men, men are more likely to become suicidal as a result of depression.
Why?
My hypothesis: Girls/women, world over, are held to higher standards (unfairly) than boys/men. Somehow, this makes ladies more prepared emotionally for challenges than men...
Let me now ask those that should know, "Why are men more likely than women to commit suicide as a result of depression, though women are more likely than men to become depressed?"
As we were discussing depression, someone said that if you're feeling depressed, just remember "It will come to pass". The team nicely told him that depression is a medical condition that can be treated just like cancer etc. If it is not properly attended to, we may not be happy with how it " comes to pass".
Depression is not a sign of weakness; it's a sign that you've been strong for too long. If you're feeling depressed, reach out to a psychologist. I'll be happy to introduce you to someone that can help.
How has the day been?
Why?
My hypothesis: Girls/women, world over, are held to higher standards (unfairly) than boys/men. Somehow, this makes ladies more prepared emotionally for challenges than men...
Let me now ask those that should know, "Why are men more likely than women to commit suicide as a result of depression, though women are more likely than men to become depressed?"
As we were discussing depression, someone said that if you're feeling depressed, just remember "It will come to pass". The team nicely told him that depression is a medical condition that can be treated just like cancer etc. If it is not properly attended to, we may not be happy with how it " comes to pass".
Depression is not a sign of weakness; it's a sign that you've been strong for too long. If you're feeling depressed, reach out to a psychologist. I'll be happy to introduce you to someone that can help.
How has the day been?
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