"Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never
has reason to regret it."
Proverbs 31: 11
Why does her husband trust her without reserve? Is it
because she laboured to earn his trust or is it because HE chose to trust her?
I think it's a mix of both. A number of men have the
belief that no woman can be trusted. That's what their fathers and uncles told
them as they were growing up.
Without realising it, that mindset permeates all that
they do and it eventually becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Of course, there
are women that take advantage of men; that's the very reason King Lemuel told
him that a good wife is hard to find. Many women have also been taught (overtly
or covertly) to take advantage of a man's weakness. So, I'm not asking you,
sir, not to shine your eyes (and more importantly your spirit) when choosing a
future partner. Once you've chosen, sir, and dotted the lines, I'm saying you
should give her the opportunity to earn your trust. The man who has given his
virtuous wife the opportunity to thrive never regrets it.
The other side of the coin is that trust is EARNED. It is
the one thing that is hard to earn and easy to lose. Madam, your husband's
trust is a privilege. If you've breached trust once, you've made it harder (not
impossible) for him to trust you again. I can write forever on "Building
Trust in Relationships" but it's up to you to decide that you want to earn
your husband's trust. (A man also needs to earn his wife's trust but that's not
the focus of this post).
I'm sad to say this but I know many stories of women who
have betrayed their husbands' trust for uncertain riches. They are relatives of
Esau; except they repent, they are headed in the same direction as Esau. If you
fall into that category (male/female), there is still room for you at the
Cross. You can send me a message and we'll take it up from there...
Let's talk about and work on trust in our (marital)
relationships.
Enjoy your day.
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