OUR CURRICULUM IS FAULTY!

Dear Christian Leaders,

Our Marriage Classes curriculum is faulty. The issue stems from the way men are subtly indoctrinated from childhood to be sexist/chauvinistic. At times, in a bid to teach a boy chivalry, he is inadvertently taught to believe that he is better than/superior to the woman.

 

That's the state many men are when they come to Christ. As believers, we are expected to renew our minds with the Word of God. As young believers, our Christian leaders have A LOT of influence on how much of the unadulterated Word that we take in. This opportunity is however not being taken advantage of while grooming young male believers.

 

While EVERYONE AND THEIR CAT has a million and one rules for virtuous women; only FEW christian leaders focus on raising godly husbands and fathers. The system and structure just isn't there...Someone pointed out that many men's fellowships focus on raising successful businessmen that will fund church building projects. We've SOMEHOW assumed that the men will just know what to do when it's time to raise their families.

 

The society we live in has sold the lie to the men that only women have roles to play in building christian homes. This teaching twists Proverbs 14:1 out of context, telling us that the success (or failure) of a marriage depends SOLELY on the wife. This is untrue, as shown in the popular wedding scriptures - Colossians 3, Ephesians 5 and 1Peter 3.

 

There is this lie about a woman being the "neck" that turns the head (the position the Lord gave to the husband) wherever it (the neck) likes. It is an attempt to shift a man's God-given responsibility to his wife. Nothing in the scriptures gave the woman such powers. If a man allows the "neck" turn the head anyhow, he has abdicated his responsibility...It didn't work out well for Abraham and Ahab when they let their "necks" (wives) turn the head...You can gamble and see if it works well for you...

 

God has clear roles for men (and women, of course) in marriage; it's time for us all to start encouraging our men (and to continue to encourage the women) to take personal responsibility for how their marriages turn out...

 

This is not an invitation for a gender war; it is a call to our men to begin to live up to their responsibilities...We need more faithful men that'll stand as pillars in their homes and communities...If you're already a faithful man, please encourage other men to join the train. And if you're a wounded soldier, it's time to get your wounds treated then return to the field.

 

I need to hear and share more #FaithfulMen stories. I'm always ready to hear more about these men.

 

Good night.