Still on Submission

Someone asked:
Is there a limit to how much wives should submit? 
If a husband tells his wife to stop going to church and to stop praying in his house, maybe because he was faced with a situation and became angry with God and the church. ..what should this wife do?

My answer:
I do not believe that there are hard and fast rules. The lady in question needs to go to God to hear what He has to say concerning the matter (Please note that I said GOD, not the Pastor). We'll talk about the role of the Pastor when it comes to hearing God in one of our 'Hearing God' series.

1 Peter 3 talks about the possibility of our godly conduct winning them over. The question then is - What is godly conduct? My answer - Godly conduct is addressing issues AS GOD SAID. For some wives in this situation, godly conduct is going to church WITHOUT FAILING IN THEIR WIFELY RESPONSIBILITIES! For others, godly conduct could be joining up with a ministry that has a lot of online presence. The Holy Spirit will reveal what's best for each situation IF WE ASK HIM. 

Concerning the prayer part, I am in COMPLETE agreement with Sis Bimbola. The wife may need to change the way she prays, if she is used to getting dramatic while praying. 

There is a Yoruba proverb that says "Patience can cook a stone till it is soft". The patient wife will enjoy bliss. Remember the Bible tells us to follow peace with all men (including our husbands). 

We can learn a lot from Esther who managed to remain married to the erratic king by exhibiting patience, a virtue that Vashti did not have. I don't believe Esther lost her human dignity by working around her husband's weaknesses, did she? May the Lord bless our homes.